Growth Potential: During the pleasure course, you will have a chance to look inward and identify what it is that makes you tick. All of us are living our lives according to a set of rules and guidelines that we’ve cobbled together based on past experiences. This is called “Your Trip”.

Your Trip’s job is to keep you safe, and comfortable; unfortunately in some instances Your Trip can also keep you from having the pleasure that you really want in your life.

During the pleasure course, you have a chance to identify Your Trip; once you have awareness of Your Trip, you will have more choice around it.

Pop Potential: A large portion of the course focuses on communication between partners. This type of work can benefit everyone. You will learn techniques to ask for what you want, and how to listen to what your partner wants.

There is also a hands-on portion of the course where you will practice the communication techniques you’ve learned.

“Get Real” Potential: The pleasure course can sometimes overweight the idea that life is ALL about pleasure. This can be hard to swallow for folks right off the street.

I found that sometimes the course leaders did not provide space for negative emotions, saying we should not focus on that or it was just part of our “Trip.”

What I Got out of it: After identifying my Trip, I was able to look at the things that frustrated me in my relationship from a new angle. I realized that usually when I get upset at someone, its because of fear that has come up, from this place I can now share how I feel rather than make the other person wrong. This usually opens up a more intimate connection and leads to more pleasure in my life.

I learned practical techniques for asking for what I want in my relationship and as part of our sex life. I learned how to enjoy what is happening in the moment rather than focus on outcomes.

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At the risk of being slightly dramatic, the best way I can describe it is this: take the movie “The Matrix,” and imagine that you were in the matrix a few days before the events of the movie occur. Even if you ran into Neo and started telling him everything that was about to happen to him — about how the world is actually a computer simulation, that he’s actually asleep in some field somewhere, all of it — there’s no words you could speak such that he would actually understand on a deep level what’s about to happen to him. You just have to do it to get it.

Growth Potential: AMP is targeted to men seeking to improve their understanding of self, especially around women and relationship dynamics. Everyone’s experience is different, but I got an understanding of the behaviors, attitudes and emotions that I had when it came to relationships. The male and female coaches at AMP were excellent at helping me see the dormant, suppressed, and otherwise unexpressed emotions; moreover they were patient and understanding in coaching me to deep breakthroughs around my own hangups.

That all sounds very therapeutic and clinical, which is the most surprising part: of all the people I know, I was the last person on my list of people who need therapy. I didn’t think there was any benefit in talking about my hangups and desires to other people, in fact I was pretty convinced that I didn’t have any major issues to begin with.

Pop Potential: In my AMP, there were a lot of guys who teach traditional pick up courses, which offer a different approach to relationships — and in my opinion, less satisfying. Since taking the course, I’ve seen many, many men who are interested in learning to pick up women also end up taking AMP and finding a more grounded “inner game.” Basically, this course is for any man who wants to improve his relationship skills and dating life, i.e. 99% of men.

“Get Real” Potential: Not often, but sometimes Decker or other leaders of the course will talk about supernatural/energistic, woo-woo type stuff. Having a scientific background, my initial reaction is to cringe at the suggestion of any kind of magical, physical manifestations. C’mon guys, strong are you with the Force, but not that strong!

What I Got out of it: I discovered my innate ability to create badass relationships in my life, whether for a night, a week, months or longer.

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What it is: The full title of the book, “A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire” is a pretty damn good description. A ‘How To’ guide of sorts for men about the big 3 in life, told with an in-your-face honesty. Not for the weak of heart.

Growth Potential: A lot of people I know consider it the holy grail of personal growth for men. If a short bald guy with a goofy laugh can “open women to god,” imagine what it could do for you. This is the real deal.

Pop: What keeps this book from becoming a #1 bestseller? Its title. This book is often knee-jerk misunderstood to imply that “Men are Superior” as opposed to “Men can reach a superior version of themselves”

Get Real: Deida bottom-lines it: “If men and women are clinging to a politically correct sameness even in moments of intimacy, then sexual attraction disappears.”

What I Got: A new perspective on relating to women and a world of understanding about the polarities of masculine and feminine. I also got a really hot wife.

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